In a country like Nigeria, it seems it has become necessary, almost
compulsory, for everyone to get married these days. Once a child
finishes his or her tertiary education, finishes his youth service and
is employed by a reputable company with a respectable salary, the next
thing everyone would assume for him or her is marriage.
Your
parents will ask questions from time to time about who you are dating
and when you are going to bring him or her home; aunts and uncles make
it their duty to remind you at every function, especially wedding
ceremonies that you are the next in line to tie the knot. Irrespective
of your age, they feel you are mature enough to start making your own
home which makes it hard for you not to feel as if you are being put on a
stereotypical timeline that you can’t adjust to suit your timing.
You
may be young, unprepared and clearly not ready to start a home and they
will still keep on pestering you to bring a man or woman home. This,
therefore, has caused an old argument that no one has truly found a
general answer to. The argument of what age is right to get married.
Marriage
is a great gift that encourages people to grow up and teaches them how
to be responsible for themselves and everyone else around them. It helps
people to take charge of their lives and teaches them to stand firm
under the windy pressures of the world. Marriage is supposed to protect
one from sexual immorality and debaucheries and so, it is no wonder why
parents would want to push their kids out early to learn how to be
mature on their own. Couples who marry early also learn how to grow up
together and form a satisfying and stronger bond from weathering
terrible storm that comes with marriages together.
However,
couples who marry early before the age of 23 are more likely in risk of
getting divorced because at that early age, those couples are still too
young to understand what they fully want. People who marry early do not
also have the opportunity to groom themselves, fully discover who they
are and what they really want with their lives before diving into
marriage. Most of those who marry early, marry because of the pressure
from their parents, what they are feeling and did not take their time to
study who they are getting married.
Therefore, it is advisable
for people to wait at least till they are in their mid 20s or almost
late 20s. Getting married later gives one the opportunity to discover
who he/she is and experience life by themselves. It gives you plenty of
time to prepare yourself for the surprises that comes with marriages.
Most people who marry late get married with open minds and do not marry
based on anyone’s opinion, they marry for themselves and themselves
alone.
However, these people are in danger of meeting the wrong
people, people too desperate that they will feign whatever character to
suit your needs. With the age of menopause reducing to 35 in some women,
people who marry late are in danger of losing out on making babies or
having difficulty in the labour room.
There is truly no specific
age for marriage. It is best to get married because you want to and not
because people want you to. Make sure you are prepared enough before
tying the knot with your significant other.
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